Words are the most powerful tool a human possesses. They can build up, reinforce, inspire, warm the heart, soothe the soul, heal the mind, resurrect the spirit and they are so necessary for the continuance of mankind. Words are the also the most powerful weapon in man's arsenal. They can degrade, wear away, discourage, tear down, hurt the heart, agitate the soul and sicken the mind and to kill the spirit. It all depends on how we use our words, these words. Will I use it as a tool or a weapon?
Should I use my words indiscriminately in the name of Truth, and in justification, "The Truth will Set you Free"? Does it matter that I think "so and so" is a poor parent? Or that "so and so" has ulterior motives"? What matters most....what they are doing or what I am doing?
Let's look at an example. A man was accused of sedition. He was a righteous man who wanted to better the world and wanted the truth to set people free. He talked to the people and encouraged the people to no longer accept the status quo but to strive for the righteous path. He spoke the truth, used His words as a tool to warm the heart, soothe the soul, heal the mind and to further the continuance of mankind. He also used his words to degrade the status quo, wear down the complacent, discourage the continuance of sin, tear down the hypocrisy, but never.....NEVER to hurt the heart or to sicken the mind. He agitated the soul, making what was once acceptable, considered acceptable, embraced as acceptable, no longer acceptable. It was no longer acceptable to stone the adulterous, exclude the Tax Collector, shun the sick and dying, condemn the sinner. He showed that I am a sinner and that I do not have the right to judge another's actions or motives for I sin and fall short of the Glory of God. He showed that my sins and my righteous deeds are as dirty rags and that I do not have the ability to come onto the Father but through Him.
When given the chance to defend himself, to speak out to save himself, to justify his words and teachings, he chose silence. One word from him as to his true motives and how they weren't as they appeared and what was being said about him met silence. Who had more right to justify his actions then Jesus The Messiah? Who had more right to say the things that he did than the Word that was made man? No blog here.
Why do I think it right to speak on the faults of others? Why are my prayers for those that need Him less frequent than my words of condemnation? How do I break free from this cycle of repentance and sin and repentance and sin......?
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Friday, August 29, 2008
When Does "Truth Seeking" Turn into a Witchunt?
Spent a few days catching up on Gwop and don't like what I see. Too many snide remarks, jokes and speculations into the Gosselin's lives and motives. Let me start with my story on getting caught up in the Jon and Kate Plus 8 show.
My interest was caught right away with the show, those adorable twins and tups were so charming. As time when on and the kids were growing they were so entertaining to watch. I loved the way they hug each other, comfort each other (Alexis hanging over Aaden when he was sick on the couch and she felt she had to protect him from the others). Oh and one getting sent to the corner and the other going over and giving a hug! And Jon was especially interesting because he is such a "hands on " Dad, everything from changing their diapers to baths to dressing them and serving them at the table. I liked Kate's organizational abilities and admired her for her ability to keep on task with the kids. I had a few dislikes from the beginning. Didn't like the way Kate talked to Jon on the show where they went to pick a Christmas tree or the Pumpkin picking day. She would really get on my nerves the way she talked to him because she was taking for granted all that he does do for the family. I don't like the way they have treated Aaden and Joel. They are both very sensitive and vulnerable and I can tell that they take to heart the things that are said to them. I knew right away that when the gum incident happened we were seeing the last of Jodi. The way Kate carried on was unforgivable with all that Jodi has done for them. But she only made herself look bad, not Jodi.
Now we have the Gwop board and Jodi's sister's board telling all the behind the scenes secrets. At least Julie's blog is credible in that Jodi gave it credence. But the Gwop board is a disgrace. It has gone beyond venting one's frustrations for Kate's behavior and the possible exploitation of the children. It has turned into a hate site. There are contests on who has the nastiest thing to say about J&K to jokes on specific pictures of the two. A very astute and mature post from a 15 year old on her perspective brought instant attacks from the haters.
There are a few instances that were aired on J&K that have me concerned about the children's emotional and physical welfare. If you want specifics, go to Gwop they are all talking about them. I tried to post on there twice and was rejected. One of the posts was raising the issue of professionals being called in. Not to take the children away but to give J&k pointers on raising children. I believe that parenting classes should be mandated for both of them. Not that I think they are doing a totally terrible job, but because some of the mistakes they are making are very serious and detrimental to the children.
I seriously believe this has turned into a witch hunt. People want to see J&K burned at the stake. These same people who profess to care about the children totally disregard the fact that they are going to hear all this stuff at school. They outright disregard the emotional scars this is going to leave on the kids. They have no problem with speculating on the emotional scars at the hands of their parents but then heap more wounds on their inner psyches with all the gossip. And that is what it is, GOSSIP! No matter how much is true in what is being said, it all amounts to gossip and the children are the ones who will ultimately pay the price.
With all that I have seen on the show that I find distasteful, my prayer for the family is that the parents get help that will teach and enable them to improve their parenting skills and to work on rebuilding those children's self esteem.
My interest was caught right away with the show, those adorable twins and tups were so charming. As time when on and the kids were growing they were so entertaining to watch. I loved the way they hug each other, comfort each other (Alexis hanging over Aaden when he was sick on the couch and she felt she had to protect him from the others). Oh and one getting sent to the corner and the other going over and giving a hug! And Jon was especially interesting because he is such a "hands on " Dad, everything from changing their diapers to baths to dressing them and serving them at the table. I liked Kate's organizational abilities and admired her for her ability to keep on task with the kids. I had a few dislikes from the beginning. Didn't like the way Kate talked to Jon on the show where they went to pick a Christmas tree or the Pumpkin picking day. She would really get on my nerves the way she talked to him because she was taking for granted all that he does do for the family. I don't like the way they have treated Aaden and Joel. They are both very sensitive and vulnerable and I can tell that they take to heart the things that are said to them. I knew right away that when the gum incident happened we were seeing the last of Jodi. The way Kate carried on was unforgivable with all that Jodi has done for them. But she only made herself look bad, not Jodi.
Now we have the Gwop board and Jodi's sister's board telling all the behind the scenes secrets. At least Julie's blog is credible in that Jodi gave it credence. But the Gwop board is a disgrace. It has gone beyond venting one's frustrations for Kate's behavior and the possible exploitation of the children. It has turned into a hate site. There are contests on who has the nastiest thing to say about J&K to jokes on specific pictures of the two. A very astute and mature post from a 15 year old on her perspective brought instant attacks from the haters.
There are a few instances that were aired on J&K that have me concerned about the children's emotional and physical welfare. If you want specifics, go to Gwop they are all talking about them. I tried to post on there twice and was rejected. One of the posts was raising the issue of professionals being called in. Not to take the children away but to give J&k pointers on raising children. I believe that parenting classes should be mandated for both of them. Not that I think they are doing a totally terrible job, but because some of the mistakes they are making are very serious and detrimental to the children.
I seriously believe this has turned into a witch hunt. People want to see J&K burned at the stake. These same people who profess to care about the children totally disregard the fact that they are going to hear all this stuff at school. They outright disregard the emotional scars this is going to leave on the kids. They have no problem with speculating on the emotional scars at the hands of their parents but then heap more wounds on their inner psyches with all the gossip. And that is what it is, GOSSIP! No matter how much is true in what is being said, it all amounts to gossip and the children are the ones who will ultimately pay the price.
With all that I have seen on the show that I find distasteful, my prayer for the family is that the parents get help that will teach and enable them to improve their parenting skills and to work on rebuilding those children's self esteem.
Monday, August 25, 2008
The Misuse of the Expression: The Thruth Will Set You Free.
Recently I've been reading a lot of the blogs concerning the Gosselin's (Jon and Kate Plus 8). I found the blogs due to another Blog that I've been reading that has absolutely nothing to do with them. I have noticed that the majority of them will only allow opinions that agree 100% with the Blog owner's denigrating opinions about the family. Actually, mostly about Kon(Kate and Jon). I posted, or tried, to post my opinion on the downside of the family speaking out on Gwop but it was not published. I think mainly because my argument wasn't arguable. That is, although I agreed with most of the "gripes" people had about Kon, I disagreed with the family coming out with all the information that criticizes their family member. I have noticed some disagreement by some bloggers, but they are promptly jumped on and all but accused of being stupid.
The following is what I tried to post:
Although I don't disagree with "the truth will set you free" on what was said, I have to question the wisdom in saying it. I have to wonder if it was wise in coming out with all the information about Kon's manipulation, greed and poor behavior and was in the best interest of the children? Perhaps if Jodi was more patient, this could have all blown over. Jodi obviously loves the Gosselin children and has been a great asset in raising them but now what are her chances in ever being involved in their lives again? The children suffer here. Kon’s control issues are not to be trifled with, either justified or not, and now the children will have no other perspective but their mom’s. Jodi had more to offer them on the inside then she does now since being cut out. What did Jodi have to defend herself about? Any thoughtful person would have seen the absurdity in Kate’s reaction to the chewing gum! I did and was embarrassed for her. I knew at the moment of the airing that trouble was in the brewing and that Kate was just making herself look bad.Did we need to know about the contract issue? Yes, it was a hurtful thing but loving and caring and being a part of the children’s lives should have come first. Jodi, what has been gained from airing all of this to the public? Now, you post a video, choking back emotions that I know are real, but every time you open your mouth, either you yourself, or via your sister’s blog you are nailing another nail into the coffin of a possible relationship with the kids…..and that is what all of this is about. Those kids need you and the stability you have/had to offer! It makes me sad to think of the stories they are going to get from their parents about why you are no longer in their lives. They are going to grow up thinking you don’t love or care for them anymore. I can picture Collin blaming himself for getting gum on his bear.
Secondly, have you given any consideration to what the children are going to hear from other kids? They don’t need to hear all of this coming from their peers but it’s out there and they are going to hear negative stuff all the way around. I wonder about the day Maddy came home from the first day of school and stormed off to her room? What was that about? Did she hear negative stuff at school about what her parent’s say about her on the show? Is she hearing negative stuff about her parents that are repeated from what they hear from their parents? And then there’s Cara, who keeps everything bottled up until she actually explodes in a litany of issues that have nothing to do with what is really bothering her. It’s bad enough that all this is coming out, and that people are saying what they are saying but you are family and family is supposed to stick together. These kids are in trouble and losing you in their lives has to be devastating. I hope it is not too late for bridge mending here. I hope that there is a way for reconciliation. And if so, I suggest you go along with how Kon wants things and just suck it up for the sake of the children.
The following is what I tried to post:
Although I don't disagree with "the truth will set you free" on what was said, I have to question the wisdom in saying it. I have to wonder if it was wise in coming out with all the information about Kon's manipulation, greed and poor behavior and was in the best interest of the children? Perhaps if Jodi was more patient, this could have all blown over. Jodi obviously loves the Gosselin children and has been a great asset in raising them but now what are her chances in ever being involved in their lives again? The children suffer here. Kon’s control issues are not to be trifled with, either justified or not, and now the children will have no other perspective but their mom’s. Jodi had more to offer them on the inside then she does now since being cut out. What did Jodi have to defend herself about? Any thoughtful person would have seen the absurdity in Kate’s reaction to the chewing gum! I did and was embarrassed for her. I knew at the moment of the airing that trouble was in the brewing and that Kate was just making herself look bad.Did we need to know about the contract issue? Yes, it was a hurtful thing but loving and caring and being a part of the children’s lives should have come first. Jodi, what has been gained from airing all of this to the public? Now, you post a video, choking back emotions that I know are real, but every time you open your mouth, either you yourself, or via your sister’s blog you are nailing another nail into the coffin of a possible relationship with the kids…..and that is what all of this is about. Those kids need you and the stability you have/had to offer! It makes me sad to think of the stories they are going to get from their parents about why you are no longer in their lives. They are going to grow up thinking you don’t love or care for them anymore. I can picture Collin blaming himself for getting gum on his bear.
Secondly, have you given any consideration to what the children are going to hear from other kids? They don’t need to hear all of this coming from their peers but it’s out there and they are going to hear negative stuff all the way around. I wonder about the day Maddy came home from the first day of school and stormed off to her room? What was that about? Did she hear negative stuff at school about what her parent’s say about her on the show? Is she hearing negative stuff about her parents that are repeated from what they hear from their parents? And then there’s Cara, who keeps everything bottled up until she actually explodes in a litany of issues that have nothing to do with what is really bothering her. It’s bad enough that all this is coming out, and that people are saying what they are saying but you are family and family is supposed to stick together. These kids are in trouble and losing you in their lives has to be devastating. I hope it is not too late for bridge mending here. I hope that there is a way for reconciliation. And if so, I suggest you go along with how Kon wants things and just suck it up for the sake of the children.
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